Why is Humility Essential For a Transformed Life? By Stuart Migdon

In our self-help society, the conventional wisdom is that you must control every aspect of your life to find success and happiness. What a shock, then, when so many people finally achieve the career goals they have worked so hard for over the years only to discover that the attainment of their goals didn’t bring them the happiness they anticipated.

Could the dissatisfaction be because our definition of success is faulty? Would we find true happiness in success if we evolved from a self-centered, worldly view of success to one that is more God-centered?

Living in a culture that worships at the altar of money, people can find it difficult to view success with God at the center. This is a critical point to fully comprehend, however. What God will reveal to us, if we listen to Him, is that true success is to love Him and to love others as He loves them. Success for a Christian is glorifying His life by the way we are living ours.

It can seem counterintuitive in modern Western culture to believe that by yielding to God, we can actually achieve greater success. The more control we give Him, the more He rewards us. If we listen to Him, He will show us that the only way to achieve this type of success is through humility. Humility is somewhat difficult to learn and to define, but when we see it in someone else’s life, we know it instantly. They live for the Lord and not for themselves.

To think about how to live in humility, one could think about the humility of a child. With that type of humility, we will be filled with child-like enthusiasm and be eager to be led and instructed by the Lord. With such an attitude, we will be teachable, moldable, and willing to change.

Humility is what brings the right balance into our lives. Instead of thinking that we can handle things without God, or feeling unworthy to walk with Him, we recognize that our life in Him is all His grace. When we have that right focus we are yielded to the Spirit and walking in a right relationship with God, and in turn, we grow more in the grace and knowledge of our Lord Jesus.

A good way to think of it is to imagine God holding your hand, teaching you His ways as you walk beside Him. It takes the humility of a child to not get ahead of the Lord and to listen and to trust Him to set the right pace. It also takes humility not to lag behind Him and to remember that in His grace, He forgives our unfaithfulness and even forgets our transgressions as we come back to Him, and allow Him to continue to lead, guide, and direct us. God recognizes that this childlike quality of humility is not possible for us to develop on our own.

When our hearts are hardened by our sinful reactions to life’s circumstances, we forget how to accept God’s helping hand. Yet the Lord welcomes us in our sorrow and repentance with open arms of love, and bestows upon us all the blessings reserved for His children. Once you have put your faith in Jesus as Lord, He is there to teach you what it means to live a life of humility as you purpose yourself to let Him take the wheel of your life.

If you are finding that despite your efforts to control every aspect of your life, you are not finding the happiness and peace you seek, the answer can be found in learning humility. By opening your heart to Jesus and walking with Him, and by turning your life over to Him, you can reach heights of success you never imagined.

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Self-Transformation: Five Steps to Being the Person You Want to Be By Kim Olver

There was a time I can remember when some people used to wear bracelets with the inscription “WWJD”? This question, 'What would Jesus do?', was designed for its wearer to be reminded to act in a way he or she valued and wanted to emulate. This provided a path for Christians but what about those who didn’t believe?

Now, anyone can ask themselves a similar question: “What would I be doing in this situation if I were being the person I want to be”? You no longer have to compare yourself to the son of God. Simply craft a vision of the person you want to be.

It is very similar to the process companies go through when deciding their vision, values and mission. We do it in companies, why not in our personal lives as well? What is your vision of the person you want to be? If you were being your best self, how would you behave?

What are the guiding principles and values by which you choose to live your life? If you are an adult, you no longer have to live by the values of another. You get to choose the ideals you want to emulate in your private life. What will they be? Kindness? Success? Wealth? Fairness? Friendship? Power? Loyalty? Competition? Cooperation? Respect? Honesty? You get the idea. Decide the values you will use to guide your life. Values become the measurements of how you make your decisions. They aren’t just nice to use when all things are going well. Your values are the tools you use to help you decide what to do in every situation. How can you know what to do if you haven’t identified your highest values?

Here is the process of self-transformation:

1. Develop your own true north. Know your values, the path you are on and the steps necessary to stay true to your beliefs and direction. Write out your vision statement for your life and determine your life’s purpose.

2. Identify supporters and detractors. Surround yourself with your supporters and limit or eliminate time with detractors.

3. In every situation, ask yourself the question, “If I were being the person I want to be in this situation, what would I be doing”? Access your values and higher ideals to answer this question.

4. Assess the likely consequences, both positive and negative, and prepare for those consequences.

5. Line yourself up and act in the way you would if you were being the person you wanted to be.

There will likely be saboteurs along the way. You will have strangers, friends and enemies alike who don’t want you to succeed. When you lead your life by values instead of situations, others may not appreciate your new direction. You have changed and are no longer the person they want you to be. In systems theory, when you change one part of the system, the entire system must adjust to compensate for the change. Those around you may not want to change, thus they are invested in keeping you just the way you are. Watch out for this kind of external sabotage.

The second kind of sabotage comes from within. Self-sabotage can be your worst enemy and it requires your constant, alert, conscious attention to overcome it. The scientific truth is that as we develop certain behaviors under certain circumstances, our brain creates neural pathways which cause us to behave in the same manner under similar circumstances unless we constantly pay conscious attention to what we are doing and we make different choices. We need to override our default brain chemistry in order to do something differently. If you are serious, you must be vigilant. Getting an accountability partner, a coach or a mentor can help you overcome self-sabotage.

Enjoy your transformation to becoming the person you want to be.

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Self Esteem Issues - Their Growth and How to Overcome Them By Henry Marshall

Self esteem is how we perceive our self, the way we value our self, the worth we put on our self as a person. Although this has nothing to do with how other people perceive us, it is about how we perceive other people to perceive us.

If we suffer from low self esteem we will feel very lowly about ourselves thus filling us with self doubt. We can end up doubting everything about us, including our appearance, intelligence, capability, how much people like us and the worth of what we have to say. We can feel very lonely and different from other people.

Low self esteem can be caused by many different things. It could be bullying or constantly being put down. Someone, very often a family member, telling the person that they are not doing well enough, that they are useless or worthless or a combination of all of those things.

Whatever the cause is, it makes little, if any, difference to how the person feels. The overwhelming feelings of being a lesser person, inadequate, useless or worthless, and above all – different!

This can happen at any age. Sometimes it can be in the very early, formative years of a child possibly living in the shadow of an older sibling, but could just as easily be at a much later time of life caused through a controlling relationship

These feelings can have a devastating effect on the person’s life, restricting them and stopping them from going to certain places. They may avoid some activities or associating with some people for very often the unnecessary fear of being ridiculed. This can stop them from making relationships or pursuing a particular career.

Abusing somebody, be it by bullying, controlling, putting them down by telling them how useless they are, or in any other way, will understandably give that person doubts about themselves. They will think why do people treat me like that? What is it about me that make others treat me like that? There must be something wrong with me. It is these negative thoughts that are the seeds of low self esteem.

When someone has those self doubts and negative thoughts it effects how they act. They avoid situations where they might feel uncomfortable. They act in a negative way and therefore, get a negative response from others making them feel even more negative. This starts a downward cycle of feeling negative, acting negative, getting a negative response, then feeling even more negative.

How other people perceive the sufferer is of enormous importance to them. Unfortunately, what they imagine others are thinking about them will invariably be negative.

So how can we overcome low self esteem? The first thing we should remember is that it will have probably taken a long time for our self esteem to have sunk so low. Going down that spiral of negative feeling, negative actions, getting negative response, making you feel more negative. So what we need to do is become more positive in the way we feel. As negative feelings grow so do positive feelings. To many of us the thought of changing from feeling and acting negative to positive is a massive step and so it is, but the good news is all we need to do is feel a little bit more positive and then allow that feeling to grow.

The thought of changing negative thoughts to positive ones for anyone suffering from low esteem can be very daunting, but all we need to do is start the process.

I have found with my clients if they can accept the fact that they are not as important to others as they feel they are, it can very often help them to start those positive feelings. It is a fact that the only people we are important to are those who love or care for us. It is ironic that it is these people that we all feel confident and comfortable with. To all others it is unimportant what we look like, what we wear, what we say or how we act, as they are unimportant to us. If we are walking along the street and we see someone fall over or walk into a lamp post we may feel sorry for them or have a little smile, but a few steps further we have seen something in a shop window and that person has gone from our thoughts forever because there are too many other things to think about, and that is how every one reacts.

If we accept what we are like is not that important to other people we need no longer worry about what they think about us, a very positive thought. It is only a start, but very often that first small, positive thought is all that is needed to allow the growing process to begin.

Add a relaxation therapy like hypnotherapy or aromatherapy to help the sufferer become more relaxed and calm, then those feelings can start to change and that negative, downward cycle can turn into an upward, positive one.

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Depression Panic Attacks and Kundalini Energy By Nick Nikolis

Hectic lifestyles and a propensity towards diseases have given rise to cases of severe depression and panic attacks. While medicinal treatment as well as therapy is used mostly to alleviate the negative impacts and effects of these ailments, recent studies have shown that using the Indian concept of Kundalini healing can help to cure these psychological ailments permanently.

Let us begin by examining what the two interrelated illnesses of depression and anxiety signify. Studies have shown that panic attacks and accompanying depression are the most widespread psychological problems as they can manifest due to a number of reasons and can be triggered off by various factors that we encounter in daily life. Regular stressors such as traffic jams, financial worries and arguments can create a tendency towards these ailments.

According to medical data, people who are prone to anxiety have a core biological susceptibility that increases the risks. Anxiety follows a defined path. People develop a fear of a certain situation or encounter which causes them to have calamitous thoughts regarding the same. These negative thoughts continue to expand until the individual is rendered almost helpless by the fear.

Consequently, the individual tries to avoid that situation and over time, the avoidance actions as well as multiple physical symptoms of the stress become aggravated and develop into a chronic illness.

Anxiety is known to often be by accompanied by depression. Depression can be understood to be chronic levels of feelings of sadness, helplessness, hopelessness, distress and despair. The effects can cause a problem in every aspect of life, be it personal, social or professional.

The symptoms of anxiety and depression include trembling, sweating, heart palpitations, and dizziness. Breathing problems, stomach ailments and chest pains and discomfort too indicate the onset of an anxiety attack.

It is important to understand that the effects of anxiety disorders and depression, such as anger, disinterest, fear and despair also work to cause more of the same illness, thus transforming into both causes and effects.

The ailments form a vicious cycle and give rise to other lifestyle problems such as malnutrition, stress and inefficiency. Seeing as to how these illnesses can damage an individual's life in a variety of spheres, ranging from mental and emotional to social and professional, it is imperative to be able to cure them effectively.

As mentioned earlier, while medicines and therapy do help, the Kundalini form of treatment has gained much recognition and appreciation of late. While it is an extremely popular phenomenon, the method is still gaining recognition.

Let us study the concept and how it can be used to cure depression and anxiety related health issues. The term 'Kundalini' is a Sanskrit word that can be literally translated to mean 'coiled'. It refers to a certain intuitive, subconscious, and often inherent life force that is visualized to lie coiled or curled at the base of the spine in one's body.

According to lore, the Kundalini force is to be visualized in the form of a sleeping serpent or a goddess that rests coiled at the base of the spine.

It is believed that this life force or power can be awakened as needed to combat various illnesses of the heart, mind, soul and body. By description, the Kundalini energy force is said to constitute a part of the 'subtle body' covert, almost hidden components that one is not consciously aware of but can delve into, should the need arise.

It is believed that the Kundalini energy force falls into the category of bodily energy points such as the various Nadis (channels of energy) and the Chakras (the centers of energy) that are used in Yoga, Tantra, Chinese Acupuncture and other forms of alternate medicine and healing. The Chakras are all said to possess unique properties and special healing powers that can be used to overcome health problems and ensure a healthy and wholesome way of living.

The use of Kundalini techniques implies awakening this sleeping energy by the means of methods of breathing, physical exercises, chanting, visualization techniques and following a life of ascetics. The Kundalini energy is said to then travel upwards from the spine to the head, where it strengthens the mind by bringing in a state of psychological illumination and enlightenment.

Let us now study how Kundalini energy is to be used to cure depression and anxiety. It is believed that the depression is caused by confines or injured areas of the brain which could have been caused due to some arrested development.

These damaged areas are referred to as the Miasmas and it is believed that they have been caused due to some stressful factor and have been further augmented due to prolonged stress. One of the practices advised in order to be able to cure the depression is to spend significant amounts of time in the sun. It is believed that sunbathing along with sun gazing helps to lift the spirit, release the Kundalini energy and overcome the state of mental fugue that clouds the spirit and dampens hope.

Depression is also said to be caused by deficits in serotonergic levels and exhaustion of the noradrenalin adrenergic receptors. This also causes excess secretion of the hormone aldosterone which has sodium retaining properties, causing salt and fluid retain in the body. Regular exercises and intensive Yoga are to be practiced daily in natural environments in order to be able to overcome these effects of depression.

Greenery and fresh air are imperative during Yoga as they help to clear the mind and air the body, thus also lifting the spirit and battling negative thought processes.

It is said that this exercise serves as a form of movement therapy induces rehabilitation of the brain by creating new brain cells that form healthy neural connections and do away with the prior ailing ones.

This awakening of the Kundalini energy must be accompanied by a healthy and happy environment which comprises of strong emotional bonds of love, caring and mutual trust because a happy and content frame of mind is required before being able to tackle serious problems of the brain.

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Stress Reduction Through Gratitude By Deanna Collins

We are all aware of the stressful times we are surrounded with, and these situations can easily lead us to feeling overwhelmed. Learning to combat stress is a helpful skill we can learn so as to regain a maximized quality of life. There is a very effective way of doing this, through cognitive redirection, and focusing on the positive aspects of our lives instead of the negative ones. By taking the time to acknowledge good fortune in our lives, and not allowing setbacks or problems to become dominating factor in our outlook allows us to deal with stress on a more successful level.

Many times it’s just easier to be ungrateful about the things we do not have instead of being grateful for the positive things we have been dealt or what we have achieved. These positive parts of our lives are often overlooked and taken for granted until some sort of disaster hits. All too often we can forget about having a roof over our heads, a warm bed and even a hot shower. Once we can identify those things for which we have to be grateful for, we have the perfect exercise for positive thinking, and it could actually change our feelings towards stress as well as balancing out the related effects.

The factors causing stress are many, but it is defined as a state where an individual is not in equilibrium with their individual surroundings. It is known to us now that the distinction between both body and mind is of limited usefulness. Negative thoughts are able to have an affect on the body, just as trauma can affect the mind. Experiences of stress prompting negative emotions may have a direct affect when it comes to body chemistry. In response to any threat or stress, our bodies produce hormones and other chemicals, such as adrenalin and cortisol.

Fortunately this works both ways. A calming environment along with some positive thoughts can fight the mental and physical effects of stress. Allow yourself a bit of time every day simply to concentrate on the positive – even if it is as little as a few minutes – you will be able to remove yourself from the causes and effects of stress.

The need to recognize those bursts of good fortune can have a radical effect on our perspective. Problems have a tendency to cast a dark cloud so to speak over the parts of our lives that are going well and distorting our perspective on things. Let’s take for example that sense of panic we feel when tasks are uncompleted instead of giving ourselves some praise over what we did accomplish. When the period of stress is prolonged or extended, it is entirely possible for us to develop unhealthy patterns of jumping automatically to a negative conclusion. By focusing on those things that make us happy is a very powerful technique we can use to overcome that pattern of thinking negatively, thereby reducing stress as well as giving a boost to the immune system.

When you are stressed or tense, it may start out looking like quite a bit of hard work to identify those things you are grateful for. Practice and patience will provide you with the ability to take the time to smell the roses so to speak. At first it may be a case of hindsight being 20/20 but with time it will become automatic.

While training yourself to be able to recognize those many things to be grateful for, you will stop taking things for granted. Seeing those items that may seem trivial to some, such as the bud of a new leaf on a tree, or a new tulip in the garden, will trigger the recognition and with it the internal need for celebration. As it becomes integrated more easily into your daily routine you will be able to see just how the process can reinforce your ability to deal with stress while you practice positive thinking.

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Survival Plan For Dealing With Stress in the 21st Century By Kimberly Mercer

There’s nothing worse than waking up in the morning with a sense of dread about facing the new day. That stressed out feeling of being unable to solve problems or deal with decisions at work; maybe a new boss or a new way of working or maybe it’s just time to move on but taking that step is proving too difficult. Maybe it’s closer to home; perhaps the person laying next to you is not the person you really want to be with for the rest of your life; or maybe they are, but financial and/or family worries are putting undue stress on the relationship.

Stress like this can make our waking hours seem like hell, and things are no better at night; sleeping fitfully, waking up in a cold sweat. Indeed, being unable to get a descent nights sleep makes the situation worse because the more tired we get, the less likely we are to be able to deal with anything. Whatever the cause of the stress, the result, the stress itself, has the same detrimental effect on our well being.

There are ways of dealing with what life throws at us, a kind of survival plan for the 21st Century, a survival plan that's right for each of us and can help us to focus on a path through the maze of problems that confronts us.

So, if work really is that bad, then maybe it really is time to move on. If your relationship isn't right then perhaps it really is time to confront that fact; and if financial or family worries really are that bad, then now is the time to take a long, hard look at them.

Guided Visualization can be an enormous help to you in this because it will help you to access your inner strength and is the ideal way to find that energy healing process that will help you deal with the problems that need to be addressed and overcome. Believe it or not, we all have that inner spiritual strength, but it is the very fact of being under stress that hides it from us. Guided visualization can give you the focus to help you to look inward and confront the issues that are pushed to the back of the mind during the periods of stress.

Guided meditation and guided visualization techniques have been around for a long time and really are nothing new. Many people simply don't realize just how simple and effective they can be in helping to reduce stress. They are the ideal survival plan for the 21st Century because they can so easily be obtained now online as digital downloads or on CD/tape.

Whatever media you decide upon, They can be put into practice to suite each individual, harnessing the inner strength we each possess to help focus and ultimately find the relaxation we need to reduce stress and overcome our problems.

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5 Tips to Choosing Personal Empowerment For More Fulfillment By Deborah Lindholm

Striving for a life that is empowering and fulfilling is, for many of us difficult to achieve. With questions such as where to start, or what priorities you set, it may seem like just a dream. It’s not, and attaining the life you long for and deserve is definitely attainable.

Personal empowerment is absolutely attainable. With these 5 steps you begin your path towards actually attaining the fulfillment you are searching for.

#1 Modify your way of thinking. By eliminating, or at least reducing the negative self-talk we tend to engage in from time to time, you are taking one of the most powerful steps to leading a positive, fulfilling life.

Respect and embrace yourself as the beautiful and unique you, with all your strength and weaknesses. Combined with positive self-talk, this is the beginning of your new empowered and fulfilling life.

#2 Consider and understand the fact that you are a complete being. Physical, mental and emotional health, even spiritual health are all woven as intricately as a web to create one whole being – you. Any part of this web that becomes out of balance can result in your entire being becoming off balance. For example your health is affected if you are suffering from some sort of depression. If you are stressed about something, it will affect both your emotional and physical health. When you find yourself lacking in faith and confidence in your spiritual being, this too can affect both your emotional and physical health.

Strive for balance in all areas of your being in order to achieve fulfillment. To live a complete and balanced life you need to work towards good physical and emotional or mental health, as well as seek spiritual guidance for spiritual health.

#3 Remember to practice personal care. When establishing your to do list you should be putting yourself first. This is not a selfish act, it happens to be quite selfless. The people around you will not be getting the very best from you if you are not happy and fulfilled. Begin choosing a little time every day to care for yourself so you can be happy and fulfilled, for both yourself and others.

Take part in some sort of physical exercise, eat healthy, meditate, laugh and pray if that is something that brings you some form of spiritual contentment. Read a good book, relax in a bubble bath, or even go for a massage. Your personal empowerment and fulfillment will benefit from these small bits of self care.

#4 Try something different. You probably have a list of things you have always wanted to do, or have thought about trying. Maybe it’s something on the extreme side, like skydiving or rock climbing, or a little more on the safe side such as needle crafts, cooking or even financial management. When you become engaged in life and its many exciting options, self empowerment is right around the corner.

#5 Discover and achieve your goals. When you achieve something from your goal’s list, the feeling inside can be almost magical. You become filled with confidence and pride, and set on the path toward more success in the future. By setting goals that are achievable yet challenging is the key to finding success. Take for example the person who wants to start their own business. By setting smaller goals, you will gradually be growing alongside your new business. Once you achieve any small goal you will find another right behind it, guiding you towards that one single long term goal of a successful small business.

Personal empowerment begins by choosing the path and pursuing it. Once that choice is made, each small step you take will change the approach you have on life, and will become the largest impact on your way to personal fulfillment.

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Moms Getting More Done With Positive Thinking By Deanna Collins

There are few people found doing more juggling and multitasking than most mothers do on a daily basis. Routines and multitasting is hard enough on the best of days, but having children always leaves the possibility of that extra complication with the unexpected. Fatigued and worn out moms may take a look at the mountain of laundry and the extra-long to-do this on the fridge and ask themselves what the whole point is.

One attitude able to be developed by all busy mothers is positive thinking. We’re not talking about just getting through today, but to make the endeavor productive and pleasurable at the same time. It has been long known to psychologists and physiologists that any negative thoughts not only have an impact on the mind, but on the body as well. If you are already overloaded and have to run on autopilot, the simple idea of that pile of laundry may be the last straw before you reach exhaustion.

Substitution of Positive Thoughts

Your own reaction to all aspects of your busy days requires a positive attitude. While you always have the option of feeling helpless and plopping yourself down on the sofa, a more productive approach would be to get going and motivating yourself to get moving. You will reap in the benefits of this action’s results. By giving yourself a ‘can-do’ attitude could be the initial step to including and practicing this bit of effort so it becomes part of your daily outlook on things.

While some people are predisposed to either optimism or pessimism, this act of negative thinking is often a learned attitude that can unlearned with some work. Start identifying any of your patterns towards either negative or possible thinking. If one or more of the following examples are easy for you to identify with, you may have just found your starting point to working this out.

Disregard of the positive: The work day has come to an end, and that mountain of laundry is still sitting there. One can easily forget all the things you did accomplish during the day, and place all focus on what actually was completed during the day.

Self-blame: It may very well be your fault that the chores aren’t completed as scheduled, but berating yourself over it will only magnify the feelings of inadequacy and failure. Many times we must remind ourselves that we are, after all, only human. Taking responsibility for those things which are out of your control will only reinforce those feelings of negativity.

All or nothing thinking: If you’re prone to ‘black or white’ solutions when making an assessment of situations, you are possibly setting yourself up for more negativity. Very few people can attain perfection.

Disastrous thinking: If you always expect the worst, or consider a minor setback to be a sign that the item on your list or step you have to take with be a disaster as well.

You can obtain positive thinking by taking a step back in order to make realistic assessments of any situation. Keep in mind the most mundane of tasks can be turned into a positive action if you work at it. Think of the pleasure you and your family will get when you have clean clothes to wear, and warmth in your home when it is cold. Replace the thoughts about how boring it is to clean the house with thoughts of less stress and the satisfaction received from having a tidy home. Remember at the same to be grateful to have a home to clean! For so many, that isn’t even an option…

The power of positive thinking will improve your efficiency, motivation and energy at the same time it endows you with peace of mind and contentment.

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How to Find Abundant Gratitude By Deanna Collins

Practicing the art of graciousness is powerful in your life. Focusing on the things you have keeps your mind off of what you don’t have in your life. When things go wrong, it’s hard to stay focused on those things. But, you can still live graciously.

Gratitude is Important

When you look at life in a grateful manner, your perspective on a lot of things begins to change. For instance, you:

• See other people in a different light. Instead of counting their faults, you see mistakes as possible blessings. Instead of wasting time on what you don’t have, you formulate a plan to use what you do have to move forward.

• Look at people with new eyes. People are seen for whom they are and not the sum total of their possessions or their character traits. Living in harmony with others fosters a happy fulfilled life.

• Forget about judging others. We all have faults and make mistakes from time to time. Acknowledging that fact helps other people to put their faults in perspective and play to their strengths.

• Look at your own life and show mercy to others. Be grateful for the chance to change someone’s life.

• See good things multiply in your life as you concentrate on them and not the bad times. Concentrating on bad circumstances lets them loom larger than life and bring you down. On the other hand, looking to the good times attracts more good times in your life because that is what you choose to expect.

Gain Gratitude Abundance in your Life

Always know what you are grateful for in life. If you want, make a list. Each day, read the list and add more to it as you feel the need. Some of your blessings that you may easily overlook: breathing each day, having food at every meal, and the good people in your life. Blessings are all around us if we choose to see them. Learning to recognize your blessings renews your hope in life and your role in it.

Practice. No one becomes grateful overnight. It takes time and consistency to develop an attitude of gratitude. Instead of falling asleep worrying about your challenges, concentrate on the people and situations in your life that you are grateful for so you can get a good night’s rest and wake refreshed and without a care in the world.

Find ways to integrate gratitude each day. Develop rituals that usher in gracious feelings within you. It could be as simple as journaling, wearing special gratitude jewelry, getting weekly pampering, or making time for family and friends. Whatever you choose, make it a positive experience.

Find ways to help others. Paying it forward puts the focus on others and not us. Give to charity, volunteer at a shelter, or show support on a case by case basis. Change the world one person at a time.

Strip away the things that you don’t need in your life. Gratitude feels good and is incompatible with things that make you feel bad. Eliminate the negative and fill up on people and situations that enhance your life.

Will you accept abundance in your life? Begin by being grateful for what you have and letting it change your life.

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How to Find Abundant Gratitude By Deanna Collins

Practicing the art of graciousness is powerful in your life. Focusing on the things you have keeps your mind off of what you don’t have in your life. When things go wrong, it’s hard to stay focused on those things. But, you can still live graciously.

Gratitude is Important

When you look at life in a grateful manner, your perspective on a lot of things begins to change. For instance, you:

• See other people in a different light. Instead of counting their faults, you see mistakes as possible blessings. Instead of wasting time on what you don’t have, you formulate a plan to use what you do have to move forward.

• Look at people with new eyes. People are seen for whom they are and not the sum total of their possessions or their character traits. Living in harmony with others fosters a happy fulfilled life.

• Forget about judging others. We all have faults and make mistakes from time to time. Acknowledging that fact helps other people to put their faults in perspective and play to their strengths.

• Look at your own life and show mercy to others. Be grateful for the chance to change someone’s life.

• See good things multiply in your life as you concentrate on them and not the bad times. Concentrating on bad circumstances lets them loom larger than life and bring you down. On the other hand, looking to the good times attracts more good times in your life because that is what you choose to expect.

Gain Gratitude Abundance in your Life

Always know what you are grateful for in life. If you want, make a list. Each day, read the list and add more to it as you feel the need. Some of your blessings that you may easily overlook: breathing each day, having food at every meal, and the good people in your life. Blessings are all around us if we choose to see them. Learning to recognize your blessings renews your hope in life and your role in it.

Practice. No one becomes grateful overnight. It takes time and consistency to develop an attitude of gratitude. Instead of falling asleep worrying about your challenges, concentrate on the people and situations in your life that you are grateful for so you can get a good night’s rest and wake refreshed and without a care in the world.

Find ways to integrate gratitude each day. Develop rituals that usher in gracious feelings within you. It could be as simple as journaling, wearing special gratitude jewelry, getting weekly pampering, or making time for family and friends. Whatever you choose, make it a positive experience.

Find ways to help others. Paying it forward puts the focus on others and not us. Give to charity, volunteer at a shelter, or show support on a case by case basis. Change the world one person at a time.

Strip away the things that you don’t need in your life. Gratitude feels good and is incompatible with things that make you feel bad. Eliminate the negative and fill up on people and situations that enhance your life.

Will you accept abundance in your life? Begin by being grateful for what you have and letting it change your life.

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Living in the Present Moment is the Key to Happiness By Timothy Aaron Whiston

Living in the present moment is the key to true happiness. If you can stop wrestling with your mind and learn to trust your true self, you will be rewarded.

A natural state of peace is easily available to you any time you choose to accept it. And the flow of spontaneous joy is yours when you simply let go of the need to control your thoughts and allow the moment to unfold.

Reality passes us by as we allow our minds to drift in the chaos of thought-driven awareness. But life is not nearly as stressful when we stop living in past regrets and future anxieties.

For many this premise is difficult to grasp. In fact it’s not uncommon for people to become defensive, clinging to their right to be always anxious and overwhelmed by thoughts and mental conversations.

Perhaps you are also a bit put off by the suggestion to slow down and embrace the now. You may wonder: how can one simply stop thinking and enjoy the moment when there is so much to do?

But in fact life seems to slow down and become more manageable when you begin living fully in the present moment. Furthermore, you’ll find more energy – both physical and mental – when you free yourself from the burden of constantly micromanaging your mind.

And best of all, your life will become once more refreshed and invigorating. You will live in moment-to-moment bliss, free to experience new feelings and ideas without trying to conform to any specific behavioral patterns.

Life is not meant to be mediocrity and predictability. Each day can and should emerge from infinite potential.

Consider that millions of people awake each morning dreading their routine and plunging right into the same thought patterns they went to bed resenting. Is it any wonder depression and stress-related illnesses are so prevalent in this society?

On the other hand imagine waking each new morning filled with the excitement of not knowing exactly what the day will hold. Sure you may be going to your regular job and engaging many of your standard activities, but because you live primarily in this moment there is no sense of turmoil or subtle resistance wearing you down.

And throughout each day, imagine the freedom you’ll feel as you find and follow the flow of life. Rather than trying to talk yourself through every waking moment you will be listening to your intuition and acting according to your inner guidance system.

Center your awareness on this moment. It may help to shift your attention to the very center of your chest, behind your sternum.

Never mind anything that has happened before right now. And let go of anything that might happen at a later time.

Be aware of the space between you and this page. Allow your mind to flow and think as it pleases without interrupting or getting involved.

See if you can let go of everything and be right here in the now. And hold on to this awareness as the seconds and moments pass.

If you catch a glimpse of your essential self, of the “you” that resides behind the thinking mind, you’ll see deep peace and stillness. You should know that it’s your birthright to embody this stillness in every waking moment.

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Did Your Cheese Move? By M.D. Crosson

The U.S. Department of Labor reports increasing job layoffs, including over 600,000 in December. This following 533,000 jobs lost in November,320,000 and 403,000 jobs lost in October and September respectively. Job losses were large, widespread and the employment outlook is the worst in 28 years! Worse yet, the 2009 projection only see more pink slips coming with ever increasing intensity.

Wow! Not a lot of encouragement if your need to or want to find employment, change careers or simply earn more money.

The problem is that most of you continue to do the same thing, while at the same time hoping and expecting that the outcome will be different. You look for work in the same industry or stay at that dead end job and take whatever they'll give you. You fail to consider other opportunities when you stumble across them. Or hit you right between the eyes!

Let me tell you a brief story made famous in the book entitled 'Who Moved My Cheese'. It's a simple story of a couple mice who continually find their way through a maze to a room full of cheese. One day they both enter their room full of cheese to find it empty - this would be where a lot of you are today. You've lost your job... your job is a low paying dead end... the company you work for and the industry you're in is shrinking or going bankrupt.

As the story continues, mouse #1 day after day continues to return to that same room (now empty) expecting their to be cheese again. Over time mouse #1 gets skinnier and skinnier and eventually dies! Mouse #2 on the other hand, realizes after several days of finding no cheese in the old place, that he must change what he's doing and decides to change course and seek out cheese from another room. After several days of searching this mouse finds a new room and a new source of cheese. He not only survives but prospers.

Did your cheese move? The moral of this story is very appropriate in todays work environment. Far too many of you are continuing to return to the same empty room (i.e. no good job or income opportunities left) somehow expecting there to be a different outcome than before. You live paycheck to paycheck and never reach that illusive goal of financial freedom.

I'm here to tell you that there are a new rooms of cheese out there and many of theme can be found on the internet! You can earn money online in a bunch of ways. Some of you need desperately to change careers and stop thinking that the room you're currently in is the only room that exists. For those willing to seek, work and persevere - there is a world of opportunity to earn money at home on the internet.

Once you decide to change rooms and seek out another way to make money. The maze can be scary and difficult to navigate. I'm here to help you navigate and offer advice, coaching and mentoring that will not only help you find that new room - but also prosper in it quickly.

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Anger Management - How to Control Your Anger in 3 Quick Steps By Carlos Duran

Anger management is searched online by over 3 million Americans every year who are looking to help themselves or someone they love with controlling anger. If you don't take any attitude, lip, smack, backtalk, don't let anyone get away with anything and make darn sure people show you some respect...if you're quick to flare up, long to forgive and nearly never forget… then this will be the most important article you read this year. Because this type of take-no-prisoners attitude is a sure-fire way to destroy your life in a blinding ocean of anger and the 3 steps to tame your rage revealed here could become the only lifesaving vessel available out of your perfect storm.

Perception Exposed

When something happens that sets you off or someone does something to really work you up, remember we all use different filters of perception. We all see the same thing in a different way. There is a high chance of probability the person or people who are making you angry don't know they are doing it and are not acting to make you angry on purpose. It's like having 100 people looking at a coin, depending on where they are standing, they all see something different. It could be 50 of them see tails and 50 of them see heads, but all 100 of them are looking at the same coin. We could all be looking at the same situation, going through the same experience yet have totally different views and feelings about what we see and feel. The ancient tribes of Latin America called this part of life's Maya (illusion). Don't be fooled by the illusion of perception.

Be patient. Breathe deeply and repeat. Remove yourself from the situation and remember we often sense too much confidence in what we think we know, we make no room for any other possibility or different interpretation. Think of how limited we can be in perception, how many things are going on all around us yet how few of them we are aware of. Take time to calm down and then ask the person who upset you what they meant by their action or words. Give them a chance to explain and do not jump to conclusions or cut them off. Listen to them until they are done and then do not go off in rage. If you still feel betrayed, angry or frustrated simply tell them you feel so and leave. Look for quiet personal spaces you can get cool and collected in. If you are dealing with your kids, don't physically discipline them when you are angry and boiling over. Wait till you are calm and if you still feel they deserve a spanking, do it without aggression or violence and never do it in the heat of the moment. Always remember, it is you who controls your reaction and how other people make you feel.

Proactive Formula

Emotions are powerful and when you are first transforming anger out of your life some challenges feel impossible to overcome. You can feel like you are always reacting to a situation instead of dealing with it proactively. That is why Kabbalah teaches an ancient formula anyone can use for eliminating anger out of their life. Its name simply translates to The Proactive Formula. Here is the first step…

Stop. When you feel the acid in your stomach boiling up, your head is getting hot and yours ears closing in. Just stop. Don't think, don't react. Disconnect yourself from everything and create a small space. Ask yourself if you would prefer to have the space filled with love or anger. If you want to have love come in to the space, then let the Light Force work for you. No matter what you call your Creator, ask for the Love of your Creator to fill the space with its Light.

Step two is to let go. Release your usual reaction of screaming, throwing or hitting and connect to the love you requested fill the small space. Recognize you usually react to this type of situation in a destructive manner and you now have a chance to be proactive; you have a chance to try something new.

Step three is to take action on your proactive feeling. Maybe it is to leave the room, or to put down the plate instead of slamming it against the wall, perhaps you decide to not speak instead of yell. What is important is your new action not be your destructive old reaction. Your proactive feelings and actions will grow from small victories to major triumphs where you actually laugh at things that used to make you tremble with living rage.

Put It In Your Mouth

Your mouth is like a hundred lane super-highway for micro vehicles transporting tons of positive and negative energy in and out of your life. The things coming in and out of our mouth impact your anger triggers. Whether you like it or not, what you say and what you eat have a direct effect on how often and how intense your anger rises. For example, eating under the stress of anger can cause spasms in your bile ducts producing excessive bile when you are angry. The bile becomes toxic in the body when excessively produced and leads to stomach ulcers, cancer, bouts of depression and fatigue. These illnesses in turn produce more anger in your life.

How you speak and the words you use record themselves into your subconscious and energize your environment. We all act according to our thoughts and feelings. Think how excited everyone acts when the words being spoken and the atmosphere are positive. Versus when the words in the air are negative, how heavy and unbearable it becomes and how horrid the feeling in the room can be. If you are looking to master your anger, then you need to consider both nutrition and meditation or prayer as key tools on your road to success.

Meditation and prayer at the start of each day helps you set your intentions. How you want to behave, feel, think and act for the day. By using simple prayer and mediation you can generate the power of miracles in your life. You can use the life and love force flowing in the Universe to help you be proactive and overcome angry explosions. Enjoy a vocabulary rich in sweet words, positive statements and constructive comments.

Your food diet is also important. Avoid red meat, liquor and fried fats. Eat healthy foods that free up your colon and cool your digestive system. Fresh vegetables and cold fruits help your brain release chemicals which cheer you up and make you feel happier. Look to not eat foods which you notice make you feel depressed or slow. And definitely stay away from liquor which taxes your liver and plays with your emotions.

When most people hear the words homicide and war they think about a conflict between countries or an innocent bystander stabbed to death in the street. This is only one way of looking at it. When your anger hurts others, it is killing them. It kills a piece of their dignity, of their happiness and worse it kills off their trust in you. When fights break out with beatings and broken glass, this is war. However small and isolated, violent angry outbreaks of battles are personal wars resulting from anger. The little things we do in our personal life, add to the bigger problems manifesting in the world. Like the now famous song from The Lion King, 'It's the circle of life'. In western society, the saying is 'What goes around comes around.' If you are putting out anger and violence what do you think will be coming back around to you, to your life, family and ultimately coming back around to world at large?

Take each of the 3 steps outlined here with the certainty that you can control your anger instead of being controlled by it. Take each step, one day at a time and never lose sight of how wonderful an anger free life can be. Pretty soon you will not only be dreaming about a peaceful fulfilling life, you will be living one.

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Discover the Hidden Powers of the Mind With Brainwave Entrainment By Gregory Frost

Your mind sits atop the crown of your head like a loyal subject. It is unwavering in its duties and if you take care of it, there is nothing it will not do. It carries out its orders with diligence and serves all your needs with a reliability that is unparallel. What if I told you that this brave, stalwart subject that is your mind has the potential to be more then just a court jester or a servant, what if it was possible to unleash the warrior, the duke and the philosopher within it and serve you with all the greatness that you deserve? Welcome to the power of brainwave entrainment, the one solution to unleash the true potential of the brain. Once you have unlocked this ‘super subject’ then you are able to do anything you put your mind to. Discover the hidden powers of the mind with brainwave entrainment.

Learn like you have never learned before. Devour entire encyclopaedia volumes and libraries of books with a voracious mental appetite and remember and apply everything you have ever read. Be the walking dictionary and information bank and amaze your friends at every turn with your quick with and retort. Be the belle of the ball at pop quizzes or games and crush your competition with a brain so large, it needs its own room. We all have the power to flex our learning and absorption skills, and with brainwave entrainment, all of this is possible.

Be creative in all you do. The world is your mural and it is time to paint, paint, paint. Don’t only think outside the box; tear it up and make a new one. Impress your bosses with an earth shattering presentation and wow your colleagues with a creativity that knows no bounds. Have the power of words, the power of design and the power of sound at your disposal and see things like never before. Mental blocks are for the weak and you can have all this with brainwave entrainment.

Achieve a level of Zen and be undisturbed even by a Richter 8 volcanic explosion - next door. Peace and tranquillity should not be in some travel brochure but available at a snap of your fingers. Transport yourself to the palm island and wafting winds and cooling waters, and enjoy a level of relaxation that should be illegal. Block out everything, from an in-laws shrill voice to the stresses at work and know how Buddha must have felt under that holy tree.

Discover the hidden powers of the mind with brainwave entrainment and these are just some of the benefits of the technology. With many, many more applications there is no limit to what you can do and you can truly wear your brain as a crown, because you will rule the world and take it by storm with super abilities. Superman doesn’t wear red underwear; he is wearing what you are wearing right now because he lives in your mind, waiting to be discovered and unleashed upon the world.

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Your Power in the Present Moment: Awake to the Now By Timothy Aaron Whiston

Most of us live in a make-believe world of our thoughts and feelings, where memories and anticipations replace spontaneous participation in the moment. This may be the norm, but it’s far from natural and in order to enjoy your true potential you must wake up and embrace the now.

You have been taught that life demands constant thinking, reacting, and the furrowed brow of concerned planning. But the truth is you absolutely can let all of that go and find the unbroken peace of the present moment.

Consider where you are right now. Become fully present as you read these words; acknowledge your physical surroundings and the intuitive current that flows inside you.

How are you really feeling in this moment?

You may be surprised to find that your true feelings are not in alignment with the “mood” you are projecting to others. When you truly allow this moment to unfold without judgment and prejudice, you may also find that fatigue and pain are replaced by a sense of exhilaration.

Once you step back from your mental chatter and accept the present moment for what it truly is, it’s also entirely possible that you’ll feel more alert, calm, and empowered. In many ways you will meet a brand new person when you stop living “in your head” and center your awareness on the truth of right here and now.

The fact is most people are not living their truth, because they are not living in the real world. By this, I mean it’s common for people to dwell constantly on thoughts of the past and/or future, rather than to be centered in the immediate present.

When we reject the now in favor of imagined moments (past or future), we are in fact displacing our conscious minds from our physical bodies. In so doing we limit our abilities to clearly and accurately process and respond to present emotional and intellectual data; and we tire ourselves unnecessarily.

As a result, the person you embody in your daily life may be a pale shadow of the man or woman you truly are. And the solution is to pursue an ongoing mindfulness of the present moment.

Letting go of forced thought and mental chatter is easy. You simply embrace where you are and what you are doing and allow your senses to see, hear, touch, etc. whatever is with you in the moment. It’s quite liberating and you will instantly comprehend the simple “rightness” of this practice.

Sustaining your connection to the present moment requires diligence and commitment.

But if you truly want to live in the space of bliss, discovery, contribution, and personal power, you must embrace the truth and let go of the illusion.

By no means should your pursuit of present moment mindfulness become a chore. Rejoice in the opportunity to discover each new moment.

And when you lose your connection and sink back into thinking-awareness, refrain from scolding yourself. Simply observe yourself in the thinking state and then return your attention to the sparkle of this pristine moment.

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Get the Life You Desire Using the Law of Attraction By Deanna Collins

Maybe there are things you want to change about your life. It’s not uncommon to want to be more than you are right now. It could be a relationship you want to change or a job or even a health issue. Women the world over have learned to put the law of attraction into practice and get the life they want to live right now. You can do it too.

What is the Law of Attraction?

It sounds complicated but it really is a simple principle: attract into your life the things that you focus on most. So, if money is your goal, pay particular attention to it. On the flip side, if your focus tends towards the negative aspects of life, that is all you are going to see manifested.

Positive Thinking, Anyone?

For the law of attraction to begin to work, define your focus. You may want something that you don’t currently have, but the idea is to frame it in a positive light. For instance, if you have a mountain of credit card debt, don’t concentrate on the amount of debt or how long it will take you to get rid of it. Turn those thoughts to how you will feel as a financially free person who is creating wealth instead of debt.

Isn’t this just a fantasy? Not at all! Changing your focus from the negative to the positive is not lying to yourself but putting all of your energy towards changing your situation from negative to positive. Being grateful for where you are and where you will be is a change in thinking that you’ll want to make. First see what you want to be and then concentrate on making it happen to get the life you want.

Let Go of some Things

We all have needs. Focusing too much on those needs can turn into obsession. You are constantly seeking to fulfill that need which says that you are not fulfilled at that moment. Unfulfilled is not a happy life. It ties you to those needs in an unhealthy way. The Law of Attraction says that you live as if you already have everything you want. That sounds like a more fulfilling existence. You are free to live as you would like. To grow, change your view again. Resist the urge to add “need” to your thoughts or you will halt the Law of Attraction.

First Steps

Here is the exciting part. What kinds of things do you want to attract into your life? Start with a list of the current things you are grateful for. Take it one step further. Instead of making resolutions like “I want to be debt free,” say “I have $500,000 in the bank for retirement.” Now your desire is an affirmation. How does it feel to have that much in the bank for your future? Remember that feeling and now have faith that you can attract what you want to you.

Use the Law of Attraction to change your life and attract what you want.

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Get the Life You Desire Using the Law of Attraction By Deanna Collins

Maybe there are things you want to change about your life. It’s not uncommon to want to be more than you are right now. It could be a relationship you want to change or a job or even a health issue. Women the world over have learned to put the law of attraction into practice and get the life they want to live right now. You can do it too.

What is the Law of Attraction?

It sounds complicated but it really is a simple principle: attract into your life the things that you focus on most. So, if money is your goal, pay particular attention to it. On the flip side, if your focus tends towards the negative aspects of life, that is all you are going to see manifested.

Positive Thinking, Anyone?

For the law of attraction to begin to work, define your focus. You may want something that you don’t currently have, but the idea is to frame it in a positive light. For instance, if you have a mountain of credit card debt, don’t concentrate on the amount of debt or how long it will take you to get rid of it. Turn those thoughts to how you will feel as a financially free person who is creating wealth instead of debt.

Isn’t this just a fantasy? Not at all! Changing your focus from the negative to the positive is not lying to yourself but putting all of your energy towards changing your situation from negative to positive. Being grateful for where you are and where you will be is a change in thinking that you’ll want to make. First see what you want to be and then concentrate on making it happen to get the life you want.

Let Go of some Things

We all have needs. Focusing too much on those needs can turn into obsession. You are constantly seeking to fulfill that need which says that you are not fulfilled at that moment. Unfulfilled is not a happy life. It ties you to those needs in an unhealthy way. The Law of Attraction says that you live as if you already have everything you want. That sounds like a more fulfilling existence. You are free to live as you would like. To grow, change your view again. Resist the urge to add “need” to your thoughts or you will halt the Law of Attraction.

First Steps

Here is the exciting part. What kinds of things do you want to attract into your life? Start with a list of the current things you are grateful for. Take it one step further. Instead of making resolutions like “I want to be debt free,” say “I have $500,000 in the bank for retirement.” Now your desire is an affirmation. How does it feel to have that much in the bank for your future? Remember that feeling and now have faith that you can attract what you want to you.

Use the Law of Attraction to change your life and attract what you want.

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Talking To The Universe By Doug Wilson

'I am' writing an article that will be helpful to a lot of people. Sounds kind of presumptuous huh? It's only meant to emphasize a system. To start I'd like for us to look at the word 'Metaphysical'. Is it at all confusing? Is the exact definition clear? Lets say that it is the scientific study of the universe as a system. We exist within this universe. We operate within this system. We can not separate ourselves from the universe or get outside the system. Like a planet within a solar system, operating within the laws of the solar system, we are part of a system. The totality of everything anyone has ever discovered about the system is contained under the heading of metaphysics. We will look at it this way because it's easy for the brain to understand. If things aren't easy for the brain to understand they are all but useless. So how does this system work? What does it mean to me?

I started a long time ago trying to get to the bottom of the 'What's it all about' question. One of the authors that I came across was Emmett Fox. I read most of Emmett's stuff and a good portion of it stuck in my brain. I don't know how much good it did me but I'm glad it was there. What I'd Like to talk about today is the way the universe hears us. If, like all the metaphysical teachers say, the universe is just giving us what we 'expect' why all the suffering and insanity. Well the answer is we are suffering from a species identity crisis. I'd like to introduce another idea here so it will be with you while you're reading. The subconscious mind, or the part of the brain that is associated with the subconscious, is like the universe. The conscious mind, or that part of the brain that bugs the hell out of us, is the egoic structure. Out of this conscious part we have come to see ourselves as a separated entity. The personality. The me. The me and the universe are no more separate than the chatter box brain and the subconscious brain. If we find this hard to grasp it is due in a large part to our having told ourselves otherwise. That is what I will address and make clear right now.

Notice I didn't say, 'I will attempt...', or, 'I'm going to try...'. I am not going to say that type of thing anymore. If I do I will only ever attempt and try...I never will do. I write at length about the brain and data. Data being everything that gets in the brain from any and all sources. One of these sources, one that we have absolute dominion over, is us. If you read the metaphysical teachings they state that, in essence, the universe is ready to bring into form all that we desire, ask, want and so on. This is where it gets confusing and most people drift away. They drift away because they don't agree. It's not what they have seen. They're right. Anyone who has spent a few years on earth can tell you that most people live there entire lives and never find what they want. Why? Is it all a bunch of hog wash? Are people just spouting this stuff out to sell books and pass the collection plate. Plenty are. They are feeding on peoples desire to find peace of mind, understanding and happiness. It is a vast, seemingly unquenchable and endless marketplace. Folks have made tons of cash from it. There is no denying that this desire to be happy is there. If that's what everyone want's, if that's what we're looking for, why does it seem so illusive?

The answer lies in the way the universe and it's partner, the subconscious, operate. It's in the way they hear us. It will do us a world of good to stop thinking that the universe speaks our written language, or our native tongue, or deals in words at all. It doesn't know Pepsi from Coke. What the universe hears, when we say 'we want', is 'I lack'. What the subconscious, which doesn't communicate in words either, hears is, 'I don't have'. This idea stands up to a simple logical test. What do you have that you are in need of? It never comes to mind that we need a new car if we have a new car. If you're thinking about all the people who aren't ever satisfied with what they have and are always wanting more, it still doesn't blow the theory. In fact it supports it. What did we just say? We said people - want - more. So what does this translate into? I don't 'have' enough. It's always like this. If you want something it should never come out of your mouth that way. Simply because it doesn't work. I shouldn't say doesn't work. It works really well. Perfectly. It is our not understanding the system that is causing all the confusion. Ghandi said, 'Be the change you want to see...'. People who don't understand the metaphysical system will say, 'Yes, first I need to be different...I need to change if I want the world to change...'. In light of our new understanding do we see how this is sort of a do nothing routine? First of all the only thing we, who do this, are being is needy and incomplete. That's what the subconscious part of the brain hears. That is the data we just fed it. 'God grant me serenity' - Translation: I am not serene, I am in need of serenity, I need...I don't have. If we 'want' a different job, how would we approach it? We know now that we don't want to say, 'I don't have the job I want'. So what would send the right message? We want to get a message to the parts of us that create things. Those being our universal connection and our subconscious brain. How about, 'I am getting a different job'? I am creating a great job? That's still a reference to some future event, isn't it? How about something like, 'I am that which creates great jobs for myself and all people'. It's not possible to run out of great ways of stating things. It's fun. I will have fun communicating perfectly with the totality of being. Yes, I just made it up. I like it. It kind of made me feel good. Do I feel I'm communicating perfectly with the totality of being? I'm not saying...anything.

I'll promise you one thing. You will have a better time when you replace 'I want' with 'I am'. It will happen instantaneously. You will have fun on your way to replacing 'I need' thoughts with 'I am' thoughts. I am certain of this.

Am I good at this? How am I going to answer that...and stay out of trouble? Let's put it this way I am going on six years without drugs of any type. Is my brain filled with garbage? Man oh man. You wouldn't believe the amount of ridiculous stuff that got in there. If it's working for me that's really saying something. I'd like to hear from you. Stop by the site and get in touch with me. 'It is' a place to help others. Not 'going to be' but 'is'. This really is a lot more fun.

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Hypnosis and NLP For Trauma By Gemma Bailey

As discussed in the article titled “Post Traumatic Stress Disorder” http://www.gemmabailey.co.uk/PTSD.htm both hypnosis and NLP can have a positive benefit to those dealing with trauma symptoms.

Of course each trauma should be dealt with based on the individuals circumstances and feelings at that time, so there are no hard and fast rules to follow. But here are some points to consider.

A person who has experienced a trauma is often in a victim state. This is because the incident that occurred gave them limited choices in the responses they could formulate at that particular time. They probably felt as if the circumstances that occurred were out of their control or were perhaps trapped and/or in danger. It important to highlight that these suggestion will only work for those whose trauma is in the past and is over. For those who are still living in a traumatic situation, a slightly different approach must be taken to help support that person in making some new decisions about how to react in that situation now and in the future.

It is essential that the trauma victim is able to access feeling of safety and security at any time during the work you do together. This is because of the risk of abreaction during the therapeutic processes you undertake. A resource anchor can be an effective way of getting the client into a positive and resourceful state quickly and easily though you must be sure that the intensity of the resource anchor is significantly stronger than that of any potential traumatic emotion that might show up during the sessions you have together.

It is important to get the client to recognise the responsibility they have in creating their own thoughts and emotions. Acknowledge that the event happened and that it was (past tense) and very bad event. In addition, the event itself is no longer occurring, only the memory of what the event was or how the event affected the nervous system is reoccurring and this is something that the client is now doing to themselves, and is no longer something that is being forced upon them. In addition to this very important point, you must teach and share this in a sensitive way so that you do not appear to be blaming the client for their own thought and feelings. This is not useful for them. What is useful is to use words such as “empowerment” and “taking control now” and “choosing what emotions to feel and when to feel them.”

There are some things that no amount of NLP or Hypnosis training can provide. What you might call the X factor that some and few therapists possess. I have seen it very rarely in those that I have trained with. It’s the ability to totally and completely turn someone ideas and thinking on it’s head by providing a reframe (a new way of looking at the perspective they currently have.) In doing so you open up their mind to a new or many new ways of thinking. You’ve probably had a situation where you have got something stuck in you mind and you keep thinking about it, and the more you think about it the more unreasonable and hard done by you seem to be. Then someone says something to you about that thing that completely changes your ideas it. Every technique in NLP is really reframe because the general idea of NLP is that it gives you that “Aha!” moment. That insight of “Oh I’d never really though about it in that way before…” The challenge most therapists face is using this skill a) verbally without any “formal” change technique which is sometimes not appropriate. (There is a version of the NLP Change Personal History Technique which involves blowing up balloons full of the necessary emotional resources and giving them to the younger you at the time of the traumatic event. It’s a great technique and for that reason I think can be overused by therapists. You need to talk it through with your client. If they’re too worried about looking like a wally blowing up imaginary balloons, it just isn’t the right thing to do!)

b) Being comfortable using conversational change in a way that isn’t necessarily going to make the client feel immediately pleasant but perhaps gets them to feel sympathetic or understanding or any other range of emotions other than what they were stuck feeling before you started working with them.

I remember working with a man who had been abused as a child by another child. He spoke a lot of his hate for this other child and what they had done to him, how this other child had ruined his life. I thought that by getting him to associate back how it felt to be a child that he might start to consider that the abusing child was perhaps not evil, but perhaps confused, curious or scared. This didn’t happen. It made him even more adamant that the abusing child was evil. I then said to him “Who do you think was abusing the abusing child?” His face went white and tensed up. His eyes narrowed and he gasped for breath. “What do you mean?! No! I was the victim not them!” he gasped. Having recently undertaken some child protection training I was then able to back up my statement with some facts and figure about the numbers of children that abuse, who are doing so because they are being/have been abused themselves. Did he feel immediately positive- No. But it did break his pattern and get him thinking about his abuser in a whole new way. He was later able to think of his abuser as the victim and in feeling that way a lot of the feeling of hate dispersed.

There are a variety of ways in which hypnosis can be beneficial to treat trauma. Regression can be used to enable the client to notice details about the trauma that were not noticed before. This can offer them the new perspective they seek when remembering the event in the future as well as offering the opportunity to re-enact the event in a new way- saying or doing what should have been said or done that would have made the event a problem no longer. Hypnosis is obviously incredibly beneficial in generating calm and relieving negative emotions associated with the past. When this is done it also gives way to the opportunity to install positive suggestions that the client can utilise in the future. It is also, I feel important to have the client practice using these new positive resources. It is a welcome relief when a client recognises that the event is in the past and exists now only in their mind, but that is not to say that an event like that will not shop up in their lives again in some other way. It is important that the client feels confident that they could deal with a traumatic event in a different way to how they did before. That they can do so in an empowering way without experiencing it as another trauma. This is also something that can be done whilst in hypnosis.

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Living in the Present Moment: The Process of Discovery By Timothy Aaron Whiston

Living in the present moment is the key to having full access to your personal power. Only when you release the constant stream of daydreams and mental chatter can you function at full capacity.

When you accept the now you are more alert, relaxed, and energized. Also it is very common to experience spontaneous joy and optimism.

Many spiritual teachers make this point, but due to the experiential nature of present moment mindfulness, people often do not grasp the power of the message. In fact sometimes people look at the process of allowing the now as some sort of chore or work task.

The truth is it’s both natural and easy to let go of your mind and be fully immersed in the present moment. While you may have learned a different way of being from society, centeredness in the moment is your natural state.

When you are able to finally let go, often after a bit of practice, you’ll feel a deep sense of peace and exhilaration wash over you. There is little question that a state of being in the now is our most natural place of presence. Both our bodies and our minds function at full capacity when we are free in the present moment.

Also, living in the now is the only way to have a truly exciting, refreshing life. Rather than resigning yourself to a routine and accepting the mundane nature of life, you can allow each new moment to unfold as it will and bring a new experience into your awareness.

The universe is filled with infinite potential, yet most of us recreate the same events and circumstances over and over for decades until we finally pass from this life. How sad and bizarre that we seem unable to comprehend the unlimited possibilities all around us when we become absorbed in our narrow, habitual view of the world.

Living in the now means to stop pushing and let life flow. Allow the moment to just be what it naturally is.

You’ll discover new things about the body you have lived in for years. And you’ll learn a great deal about the person you really are; it’s very common for people to change dramatically when they stop living in their head and begin living in the real world of now.

You can start embracing the moment by telling yourself each day when you awake that new things are in store for you. Rejoice in the fact that you don’t know exactly what’s coming your way with each new moment and be mindful of the fact that new experiences can enter your life at any time.

With this frame of mind, begin to practice letting go of your thought-state throughout the day. Just step back from the process of constant thought and become aware of your body, your physical surroundings, and the subtle feelings within your body.

Once you begin your pursuit of the truth it’s likely you’ll be hooked for life. The whole world changes when you view it from the lens of now, and not from the prejudicial perspective of constant thinking and reliving of old experiences.

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Recognizing if You Have Depression By Steven A Johnson

Millions of people suffer from Depression each year. Depression is made up of different emotions, most people get feelings of loss, frustration, sadness, and disappointment, just to name a few. Someone who has depression doesn’t have a lot of interest in life and has a hard time focusing on tasks at hand. Sometimes they may not want to get out of bed and they don’t want to partake in normal daily activities like going to work or participating in a hobby of theirs.

Two main categories of depression are situational and clinical. Clinical depression symptoms are having thoughts of suicide, uncontrollable negative thoughts, very easily becomes irritated or angry, feelings of hopelessness, sleeping to much or not at all, and loss of appetite, or overeating. Situational depression is pretty normal feelings of sadness that occur when someone goes though a major loss, or the not so lucky things that just happen in life that nothing can change. So you can see here that there is a huge difference between the two.

Every case of depression is going to vary from case to case, every person is different . Some people who have depression say that they don’t feel sad, they feel worthless, blank, empty, almost like the living dead just lifeless. They are incapable of feeling happiness and enjoying anything.

Suicide is a major factor in Depression. Many people that are depressed end up committing or attempting to commit suicide. Depressed people think that sometimes it’s the only way to end the pain and get rid of the feelings they are experiencing. Suicide is a symptom of severe clinical depression and you can not take it seriously enough if someone you know is talking about suicide. There are many hotlines available for help you or someone you know wants to hurt themselves. Most often suicidal persons will give a clue or warning to theirs feelings and theirs intentions. So if you notice any signs that someone you know might be suicidal speak up! Helping them cope with there depression or even just showing that you care may just save their lives.

Some other types of depression involve Dysthymia, maniac depression, postpartum depression, and seasonal affective disorder (SAD). Dysthymia’s symptoms are not as strong as major clinical depression, however, the may last as long as 2 years or more. It has small ups and downs to it. For a few days you may be mildly depressed and then the next few days you may feel better and happier. However, the may last as long as 2 years or more. It has small ups and downs to it. For a few days you may be mildly depressed and then the next few days you may feel better and happier. Maniac depression is another name for bipolar.

A Person with maniac depression usually will have the same symptoms as someone who has severe clinical depression except they have other major mood swings that can last days to weeks and can switch in a matter of days or hours even. Postpartum depression is a very normal depression that happens after a woman has given childbirth. New mothers tend to be very sleep deprived, going through a major lifestyle change and that might be a major cause of it. It can happen up to a year after child birth and sometimes it can get so extreme that a mother may want to hurt her new child or want to ignore and neglect it. Seasonal affective disorder happens in the winter months when the weather is cloudy and gloomy. It is a very normal depression as well.

Depression can actually be very hard to treat. Sometimes, what seems like symptoms of depression are often the same symptoms of something else. It can be hard to tell if the depression is situational or if it really is clinical. In a situational case the treatment can be as easy as changing the situation, but with clinical depression it can be a number of things. Things like a childhood trauma, a social problem loneliness, substance abuse, genetics, a health problems that is very troublesome or a more recent traumatic happening.

But no matter how depressed one person should get, there is always a way to recover. There is so many different treatments and therapies for depression patients the amount of help is endless. There a prescription medications to help, hotlines, therapies, and lots of natural ways to overcome depression. Alternative health supplements some safe and natural products that will help with depression and changing ones mood. The best way to overcome depression is to use a couple methods of treatment together. Talk to a professional to see whether making a life style change would be the answer or try taking a natural herbal supplement. Which ever method may be right for you the first step is to ask for help and know that it is out there and its everywhere.

Resource: http://www.isnare.com/?aid=351887&ca=Self